7 ways to choose the right life partner - Times of India

7 ways to choose the right life partner - Times of India

Etiquette that a man should observe towards his wife

Choosing a righteous wife

When a man enters into marriage, he should choose a pious and chaste woman and never neglect chastity and goodness for the sake of wealth and beauty.

In the religion of Imam Shafi'i (may God bless him and grant him peace), it is mustahabb to see that woman in the same way before marriage; Because that opinion increases the desire and affection, and the virgin and noblewoman should be chosen, not the widow and the lowly woman.


It is stated in Sharia al-Islam that a man who wants to marry a woman deserves to be inferior to a man in four things and superior in four things. In other words, a woman must be lower in wages in terms of age, height, wealth, and lineage; Because in this case, the man is far from seeking superiority and relying on women, but in terms of beauty, appearance, good manners, chastity, and goodness should be superior to men.

There are six types of women

1): ‌ Infertility means infertility: ‌

 Because the main purpose of marriage is childbearing, in which case that purpose is not achieved. The elders have said: بد A badly shaped black woman who is fertile is better than a good one on infertility.

2) ‌: Hananeh: 

 She is a woman who spends and forgives the children of her ex-husband and relatives with the property of the present husband and is not afraid of wasting and wasting her property.



3) ‌ Manneh: 

She is a woman who relies on her husband for her wealth and lineage and is arrogant towards him.

4) ‌ Ananeh:

 She is a woman who has been in the house of her ex-husband in the past and whenever she remembers it, she cries and cries because of its loss.

5): Kiyat ul faqah:

 is a woman who, due to her disliked character and abandonment of her chastity, makes anyone and her husband hot by slandering and absenteeism.

6): Hazarh udaman: 

She is a woman whose appearance is good but her inner being is impure and she is often domineering, inactive, and bad-tempered.

Good association with his wife

A man should live well with his wife and associate with her happily.

It is narrated that the Prophet (PBUH) ‌ said: The most perfect believer in terms of faith is the one who has better morals and more kindness to his family.

 Patience in the face of spouse temper

A man should be patient in the face of his wife's harshness and violence and be patient with her companion and consider it as a means of cultivating morals and purifying his condition from God Almighty. If a word or behavior is issued against him against reason and custom, he should not be reprimanded. Always treat him with love, kindness, and patience.



Increase alimony on spouse and children

One of the rights of a woman over a man is to provide her with enough alimony and not to leave her in poverty, and to provide as much as she can in providing food, clothing and what the house needs, and if necessary, to study alimony and If the clothes have some doubts, spend the solvent on food supply and doubt on the clothes.

Politics

He should not neglect to record and monitor the behavior and deeds of women, and should not be subject to her temperament due to the perfection of good character and gentleness of nature, and should not give her the opportunity to seize and dominate her property.

Jealousy

It is proper for him to be extremely jealous of his wife and children, and the condition of zeal is that he does not allow the non-mahram to enter the privacy of his house, and that he forbids his family from attending sermons, weddings, troubles, and that women and men are not allowed to gather there. If it is possible to take a bath at home, prevent him from going to the public bath.

Spouse discipline

To discipline his wife first, to advise her; If it is useless, stay away from his bed, which is allowed for a month.

Teaching religious issues

Must strive to teach the issues that are necessary to know;

Respect for equality and equality between spouses

This literature is for those men who have two or more wives. It is mentioned in the hadiths that the Prophet observed the turn among women.